Saturday, January 30, 2010
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Now, I am the first to admit that as a non-parent, I am hardly qualified to give parenting advice, however as a law-abiding, generally rule-following member of our society, who has been a major part of the lives of multiple children, related to me either by blood, or by love, I consider that I AM qualified to make a couple of observations about this situation with a 4 year old PreKindergartener who is, according to his parents, being persecuted and discriminated against because of his hairstyle. There are literally hundreds, possibly thousands of stories out there on the internet about it… My Google search, yielded 30,000 hits.
Over the last few months, I have read several articles, mostly from the Dallas Morning News and Fort Worth Star Telegram, with regard to the situation. In the past, most of them included statements to the fact that the child has Native American heritage, and wants to wear his hair long in the Native tradition, and I'm fairly certain, that at one point, I also read that his father also wears his hair long. Today's stories, however, state that his father, a tattoo artist, used to keep his head shaved, but agreed to grow it out, along with the child, who "wants to grow it out and donated it to an organization that makes wigs for children…" Seriously people? A FOUR YEAR OLD? And the Native American heritage? Yeah, that's clearly important to the family since none of his 3 brothers have long hair, nor did Daddy until allegedly the child wanted to grow his out. I have known my share of VERY bright 4 year olds, however NONE of them have come up with an idea like growing out their hair to donate it to charity on their own. Judging from the length of his hair, this driving urge to have long locks is a relatively recent development, or else it would have been beyond the length deemed excessive by the district well before the end of October. Their "effort" to conform to the part of the rule that says boys' hair must be kept out of their eyes is to put his hair in a ponytail, ON TOP OF HIS HEAD! I wouldn't put my 4 year old DAUGHTER'S hair in that whale-spout ponytail on top of her head, much less my son's! Do they really think that it's a good compromise? His mother claims that braiding or cornrowing his hair makes his scalp bleed. UMM… what the HELL? I have done and seen my share of cornrows and tight braids over the years, and I have never seen or heard of them causing scalp bleeding.
We live in a society in which children and many of the young adults have both a sense of entitlement, and a belief that either the rules don't apply to them, or that they don't have to be followed if they are unpopular. It is parenting such as this that has bred this generation of kids. "Why Junior, the world does INDEED revolve around you, therefore, you are above the rules, go right ahead and express yourself, with no regard to anyone or anything else." Don't get me wrong, I know some AWESOME kids, who are willing to obey the rules, work hard for what they earn, and have learned to express their individuality WITHIN the boundaries prescribed by society/school districts/parents. Unfortunately, the longer I am unemployed, the more time I am out in public places other than an office environment, and the more instances I see of ill-mannered, spoiled, lazy, and unruly children. Now, I know full well that it is NOT always the parents' fault that the kid turns out to be lazy, ill-mannered, lazy, or unruly. I share living space with one such kid, who is legally, an adult. Since returning to the household, soon after I joined it, well, it's been one thing after another, all boiling down to a lack of respect for other people and the rules (in this case, of the household).
I honestly believe that these parents are looking for their 15 minutes of fame, at the cost of their child's education, and rather than seeing this situation as an excellent learning opportunity, they are teaching him to have a total disregard for the rules that have been in place, and have been working for a great many years. So far, because his parents believe that the rules shouldn't apply to him he has been exposed to:
- Isolation from his friends and peers at school
- Negative attention, and I would venture to say ridicule from around the world
- The idea that he doesn't have to follow rules he does not like.
That's my rant for tonight. I could have posted about it weeks ago, but, well, just didn't get around to it.
Keep in Mind:
Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door – Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
This week's major accomplishment is my corset. One of my friends, who makes absolutely AMAZING court dresses and other garb, has been teaching a few of us how to make our own amazing stuff, starting with a corset. I HAVE decided that I'd just as soon rather buy precut boning the next time around, instead of cutting my own, and having to file the ends, and wrap them, etc. I am also having issues with my layers being a bit too thick, I suspect because of what I used for padding to smooth the outer layer so the boning doesn't show through. Class again on Sunday, so hopefully she has some ideas how to address that, and by the end of Sunday, or Monday at the latest, I will have an awesome foundation garment, that will give me at least several options.
I also have an awesome skirt rolling around in my head, that I think COULD work with a couple of different things that are ALSO rolling around in my head.
Keep in Mind:
Hate is like acid. It can damage the vessel in which it is stored, as well as destroy the object on which it is poured - Ann Landers
Saturday, January 2, 2010
I have always loved to read. There was a time, when I was in first or second grade, and we lived overseas, that I failed to get off the bus at the base officer's club for dance class after school because I was so engrossed in my book that I paid no attention to where I was until we had already passed the stop and I had no choice except to ride the rest of the way home. Fortunately, Mom had not yet gotten into the car to come pick me up from my lesson.
When I was in college, my reading was largely limited to the required texts for my History major and English minor, which was PLENTY of reading, for sure! When I graduated, I'd had my fill of heavy reading, and for several years, the only things I read were Harlequin romances. They are easy to read, they always have a happy ending, and pretty much they are very predictable. If I got interrupted in the middle of a book, I didn't have to figure out what was going on, when I picked it back up again.
Over the last few years, I started picking up some other things, Harry Potter, some historical things, books about places I'd visited and found fascinating. Somehow, in the last couple of years, I got really bad about buying books and not reading them. Rarely do I go into a bookstore and come out with only one book. I try to find them on sale, and I can get lost for hours in a Half Price Books, wandering through the stacks!
My goal for this year, that I'm positive I can accomplish is to read or finish reading all of the books I've already got on my bookshelves that are unfinished, or unstarted.
Here is my list:
- Kabul Beauty School - Rodriguez, Deborah
- Decoding the Celts - Hamilton, Claire & Eddy, Steve
- The Dairy Queen - Rushby, Allison
- **A Belizian Rainforest - Horwich, Robert H & Lyon, Jonathan
- The Elegant Gathering of White Snows - Radish, Kris
- Looking for Alaska - Jenkins, Peter
- Gift of Power - Lame Deer & Erodes
- **102 Minutes - Dwyer, Jim & Flynn, Keith
- Shaman, Healer, Sage - Villoldo, Alberto
- Ireland's Pirate Queen - Chambers, Anne
- Magical Thinking - Burroughs, Augustin
- Watching the Tree - Yen Mah, Adeline
- She's come Undon - Lamb, Wally
- it's a Chick Thing - Beanland, Ame Mahler & Terry, Emily Miles
- The Book of Celtic Verse - Matthews, John
- **Border Healing Woman - Babb & Little Dog
- Galveston Rose - Powell, Mary
- The Mermaid Chair - Kidd, Sue Monk
- The Gathering - Enright, Anne
- Celtic Myths & Legends
- Driving with Dead People - Holloway,Monica
- Annie Freeman's Fabulous Travelling Funeral - Radish, Kris
- How the Scots Invented the Modern World - Herman, Arthur
- The Other Boleyn Girl - Gregory, Phillippa
- How the Irish Saved Civilization - Cahill, Thomas
- The Way of the Pirate - Downie
- She Captains - Druett, Joan
- Harry Potter & Philosophy - Baggett
What is on your reading list?
Keep In Mind: "No one is in control of your happiness but you, therefore you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change" Barbara De Angelis
Friday, January 1, 2010
1. What did you do in 2009 that you'd never done before?
Spent more than one night in a row in New York state
Filed a police report against someone I once called friend
Suffered the consequences of someone else's lies
2. Did you keep your new year's resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I don't generally make resolutions, because, well, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, which are never realized, either through forces beyond one's control, or sheer lack of follow through. For the coming year, I am working on being less negative by changing how I look at things, as well as how I react to them. It's hard, sometimes the happy pills help, sometimes not, and it remains to be seen whether or not I can get the prescription refilled when the ones I've tried to carefully ration do run out, since I've had no insurance for 7 months now, and the last time I checked, the cash price was nearly $125. I am also working on, well, WORKING. Unemployment sucks, and Ebaying, while not terribly hard to do, is tedious and provides only sporadic results when you don't have the $ to invest in merchandise and have to work on selling off what you do have.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth??
Not anybody super close, but we had a couple of babies born at church, and the McNewts had baby Anwyn, who I WILL eventually manage to meet!
4. Did anyone close to you die?
A very sweet and kind friend from church, and one of my cousins of my mother's generation.
5. What countries did you visit?
Hmm, well, seeing as I live in Texas, I visited the country of the USA… trips included New York state, via Atlanta on the way up and Chicago on the way back, but that's about it.
6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
7. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
January 24th when I learned that the friend I tried to help by letting her stay with me "until she got back on her feet" was trying to steal my belongings.
May 18th when I was unceremoniously fired, without notice that there was a problem
July 17th when I learned that someone else's LIES cost me any chance at collecting unemployment, and that I would be required to pay back that which I had already collected.
8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Finally getting rid of 3 trash cans & then some of random shit that I'd been dragging around of my mother's & grandmother's since Mom died in 2002, mostly STILL BOXED from when I first moved it out of her house in 2004!
9. What was your biggest failure?
Having to give up my home and reduce my belongings down to what will fit in a bedroom and a 5x10 storage unit. Technically, it's not my failure, other than perhaps my failure to properly place my trust.
10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Extended recovery and getting back to normal after surgery in December of 08, depression, and some allergies.
11. What was the best thing you bought?
My laptop, which was actually a replacement for the one I thought I fried when water spilled on it.
12. Whose behavior merited celebration?
Several of my friends who rallied around when I hit bottom in October:
E&T offered me shelter in their home, moved me, sorted through sit, and prepped for the sale
Captain & Isa helped me sort through shit, move what was moving, sort through more shit, prep for the sale, and helped with the sale
Doc, Cat, Natalie & Sheila helped with the prep and/or the sale
Robin sent me her positive energies from afar
13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?
A couple of people I thought were my friends, but obviously they weren't since one was stealing from me, and the other found it acceptable to lie to the state about me
14. Where did most of your money go?
Bills, and faire
15. What did you get really excited about?
Going to a new faire, and my beautiful locket that was a gift from very dear friends
16. What song will always remind you of 2009?
17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
– happier or sadder? Sadder, like I said, it was a ROUGH year
– thinner or fatter? Actually, a little thinner
– richer or poorer? Definitely poorer, have I mentioned the no job thing yet?
18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
Working, how sad is that?
19. What do you wish you'd done less of??
20. How did you spend Christmas??
Actual Christmas day I was with my bestest buddy, at her sister's house in Fort Worth, but I saw my brother's wife & kids a couple of weeks early, my sister & her family the Sunday before, and had small celebrations in early December at Dickens with other dear friends
21. Did you fall in love in 2009?
Nope, fell out of it though.
22. What was your favorite TV program?
Only one? Let's see Comedically: Big Bang Theory, Dramatically: NCIS
23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
Hate is a pretty strong word, but there are people that if I never see them again, I'm great with it, because, well, Karma is a BITCH and will get them, eventually.
24. What was the best book you read?
Hmm, I'm not sure I finished any books, and can't quite remember the names of the ones I started.
25. What was your greatest musical discovery?
Didn't have one.
26. What did you want and get?
27. What did you want and not get?
A job to replace the one I lost
28. What was your favorite film of this year?
Hmm, I'm gonna go with Harry Potter & the HBP
29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I didn't really do anything ON my birthday, but the day before a friend's parents had a birthday party for the 3 of us who's birthdays are within that week. I turned 42
30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
Being able to overcome the unemployment thing, AND stay within my field.
31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?
Hmm, casual without being sloppy if I was going out anywhere in public… now, if I was just staying home, comfy and baggy is the name of the game
32. What kept you sane?
Who said I was sane?
33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
I have no idea
34. What political issue stirred you the most?
Healthcare, of course.
35. Who did you miss?
36. Who was the best new person you met?
Hmm, what new people did I meet in 09? I'm sure it was someone I met at Scarby, but I've no idea who to pick…
37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009.
Sadly, just because you are someone's friend does NOT mean they are your friend.
38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
I have no clue!